The strength in sensitivity: how embracing it changed my life

The strength in sensitivity: how embracing it changed my life

Like many highly sensitive people, I grew up thinking that my sensitivity was somehow shameful- that it made me weak and fragile. In my twenties, I discovered the term HSP (Highly Sensitive Person) in Elaine N. Aron’s book, and it truly changed my life. It was shocking to learn that around 15% of the population is HSP, while I had always felt so alone in this. Being highly sensitive wasn’t as rare as I had thought. That discovery led me into a deeper journey of understanding how my body and nervous system work differently from others. It was also the time I began to realize that my sensitivity wasn’t a punishment, but a gift- one that I could nurture and use with purpose.

What is an HSP and what does it mean to be one?

An HSP is someone with heightened awareness and deeper processing of sensory and emotional input. But what does this mean in daily life? Every HSP experiences this differently, but for me, I often sense the emotional tone of a room the moment I walk in. Loud noises or too much activity can quickly overwhelm me. I’m deeply moved by art. I feel drained by bright lights. Caffeine hits me hard. Watching a violent film can affect me for days or weeks. I feel others’ emotions without really trying. I have an intuitive understanding of people and situations. I also need a lot of solitude and quiet to recharge. This is because HSPs perceive and process far more than others might notice. Especially the subtleties. This isn’t a personal choice- it’s how our brains are wired. We carry a biological trait called Sensory Processing Sensitivity (SPS), which means our nervous systems are finely tuned to detect and deeply reflect on sensory input. Everything from sounds, lights and smells to social and emotional cues. It’s not a disorder or diagnosis, but a temperament trait- a natural variation in how some people experience the world.

The challenges of being highly sensitive

Last weekend, we had friends visiting from Italy. It was a beautiful few days- filled with deep conversation, creative moments and time in nature. But being around four additional people, especially with very energetic children in the mix, left me feeling depleted at times. Even though I genuinely enjoyed the company, my nervous system needed rest. That’s something I’ve learned to recognize. Like many HSPs, I find common situations more challenging than they appear to others: crowded places, chaotic environments, multitasking or emotionally charged conversations can quickly lead to sensory overload. Fast-paced, competitive or highly stimulating spaces are profoundly draining. Without solitude and intentional rest, burnout becomes a very real risk- and I speak from experience.

The gifts of high sensitivity

After years of inner work, I’ve learned how to live with my sensitivity instead of against it. That doesn’t mean the challenges are gone. It means I know how to care for myself better and more consistently. I’ve also come to truly believe that sensitivity is a precious gift. Among the many blessings of being an HSP are deep empathy and compassion- not only for others but also for myself. These qualities enhance my work and help others feel seen and safe. My sensitivity to subtle details, like the tone of a voice or a shift in mood, gives me a sharpened awareness and precision. I’m also deeply reflective and naturally drawn to self-exploration, which enriches both my professional and personal life. One of my favorite gifts is creativity. I am a deeply creative person- whether I’m working on art projects or simply seeing situations from multiple perspectives, I find it easier than most to shift how I view the world. I have a strong connection with my inner world and a strong sense of intuition, which helps me notice patterns and insights others may overlook. I may not fit into everyone’s frame, but my uniqueness brings value, meaning and authenticity to my life and the lives of those around me.

If you noticed similarities to your own life while reading this, I invite you to take a moment to explore whether you might be a Highly Sensitive Person too. There are many simple self-tests available online, simply search for ‘Highly Sensitive Person test’ and you’ll find many options.

Recognizing and meeting myself as I am brought so much clarity and peace into my life. It awakened gifts and talents that I can now honor and cultivate with intention. It also helped me make important decisions. And made me stronger. To all HSPs out there: I gently invite you to embrace your true nature. When you do, you create space to fully blossom. In your own way, in your own time.

May you create space in your life to rest and reflect. May you feel safe enough to be fully yourself.

With gentleness,

Dovile

P.s. If this post resonated with you, I’d love to hear your story. Are you a highly sensitive person? Or do you think you might be? Share your reflections or experiences in the comments. Your voice might just help someone else feel less alone:)